Crazy Sex Culture

I am concerned about people today, because today’s culture is very focused on sex, from sexual identity to pornography to mostly naked girls trying to impress the boys.  This is a very unhealthy focus of sex and it is causing lots of problems in society today.  I am especially concerned because there has been a dramatic rise in the number of people with sexually transmitted diseases (STD), and a large rise in the number of people with mental health issues, especially among young people.  

That is not how it was meant to be.  Sexual attraction is a good thing.  God made us male and female and gave us an attraction for each other.  “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24).  In the context of marriage, sex is a good thing.  Sexual attraction and sex itself help bind the husband and wife in marriage.  It is in marriage where sex is meant to be.

Unfortunately, the cultural focus on sex has been around for a long time.  I think of Jane Mansfield and Marylin Monroe.  I think of the old commercial saying, “Sex sells”.  Beautiful well endowed women would be placed with the products you wanted to sell.  But it was in the 1960s, the era of free love, when things really took off. Birth control pills became available, so the concern of an unexpected pregnancy mostly disappeared.  Because of that, the expectation of having sex while dating became the norm.  Although for some, their only purpose of having sex was to release their own sexual desires.  Sex for them was very me focused.

Pornography has also taken off, capitalizing on the lustful side of sexual attraction.  Pornography is there mostly for men’s fantasies. (Pornography is not exclusively for heterosexual men but the large majority of it is, so I will talk about pornography in this male heterosexual context.)  Pictures and videos created a fantasy world for men where women are there to please the men and to appear to greatly enjoy being sexually handled.  With the arrival of the Internet, pornography became easily accessible and much more anonymous. (You are never completely anonymous on the Internet.)  Pornography on the Internet has increased the expectation that having sex with anyone is the normal thing to do, and all the kinky ways to do it are possible and okay. 

With all the boundaries disappearing, other sexual forms found in the LGBTQ+ community have become popular.  Instead of having a clear cut physical identity of either male or female, people today are supposed to look inside themselves at their feelings and desires and decide who they are sexually, heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, or asexual, and also male, female, neutered, or something else.  Who you are physically does not really matter. Today, gender is a fluid social construct. You can be whoever you want to be and you can change your gender hourly if you want. 

This concerns me, because it appears the LGBTQ+ community has focused their efforts on “helping” teens find their gender.  Puberty is a time of great bodily change.  I remember not quite knowing how to handle all the changes happening with my body.  The last thing I needed was someone asking to look deep inside me to find out what gender I was.  It would have been very confusing to me.  I think this is one of the reasons there are so many mental health issues among the youth today.  The youth today need some stability as they discover who they are as a person and to deal with the physical changes happening with their body.  They do not need someone asking them to decide right now their gender, that is asking them to make some big life changing decisions.

Sexual promiscuity is the norm these days, especially in the LGBTQ+ community.  Having many sexual partners greatly increases your chances of getting one of the STDs. For me this was made clear in August 2022 when there was a very limited supply of Monkeypox vaccines. Colorado’s Governor Jared Polis focused their efforts on making the vaccines available to the LGBTQ+ community because they were “currently the most at risk”.  Having multiple sexual partners is dangerous! It only takes one sexual partner to infect you.

Being sexually promiscuous is wrong and is harmful in many ways.  There is a better way.  God has set apart sex for marriage.  A man and a woman are to save that physical sexual intimacy for marriage.   Sex is meant for marriage.  Doing it God’s way is safer both physically and mentally.  (More on marriage in the next blog post.)